Love and other disasters;

Shouting, screaming, scolding even beating is associated with the love disasters. Why you always doing sms, calls, net and balla balla. These words you probably heard from the mouth of your family. It may be period of your first crush. When you have experienced your first crush.  This is the period of teen. Many are experiencing the upheavals of early teen. Some forget this period with end of early teen .But love and its disaster cannot be associated to any of the stage, age of life. You can anytime fall in love and you can face its disasters.

In the twenties many youngsters fall in love.  You also heard this in love there is no boundary; you fall in love with anyone at anywhere. At once life has been changed, even the bitter words, worst weather and everything like a heaven.

“It’s easy to believe in magic when you’re young. Anything you couldn’t explain was magic then. It didn’t matter if it was science or a fairy tale. Electricity and elves were both infinity mysterious and equally possible _elves probably more so’’. Charles de Lint.

There are many types of disasters. But love disasters mostly man-made. World can’t understand this innocent emotion and the feelings of girl and boy. They only see the changes appear in lovers. Psychical beauty that automatically appears especially in girls. Lovers want extra space for themselves. In which they spent time with each other. They pay extra attention to enhancing their beauty. Their extra space, spare abnormal attitude of optimism cause of man-made disasters. So here the story of love and other disasters starts. 

Firstly they had a suspicion. Then they started investigating for searching the truth. By any means they want to know the truth. So they finally succeed in getting the truth. Parents, elder siblings started torching the lovers. And parents’ siblings restrict their life. Make rigid rules and regulation for lovers. No one thought appropriate to understand their feelings.

The guy or girl you are meeting is not good. He/she have a bad character. His/her companionship is harmful for you. We know the world better than you. You are kid. Even the lover is studying in university with doing job heard these words from everywhere. This is behavior of the parents, siblings lover had bear. But the lover is lover. And love is blind. Moreover if it is first love. No one can’t imagine the feelings of lover if though parents and siblings also experienced such feelings. But the ego nature, so called respect and name of society made them cruel.

Opponents of the lovers I mean the families also sometime interviewed them. Either he/she are capable of being loving or not. Mostly lovers were rejected.  If they passed the interview then the whole life becomes an examination hall for them.

Many newlywed couples, even old married couples can’t express their feelings as they want. After marriage n laws become a hurdle in the lovers. They feel hatred and jealousy with their happiness and above I mentioned. The man-made disaster doesn’t alone the lovers. These man-made disasters sometimes lead to suicide of the lover.

Lastly, just to understand other feelings don’t impose your rigid rules to others .life is very short. Love is very sweet feeling. No one have a reason to tell you why they love. So become neutral. Don’t make lovers rebellions.

Here is my favorite quotation; this is dedicated to all lovers

I was born when you kissed me.

I was died when you left me.

I lived a few weeks while you loved me.

Bridal dress obsession ;

Every girl is dreamed for a perfect wedding dress since she attained the age of maturity. Before taken the step  into a marriage life she wants this dream come true at any cost. she want to buy dress that should be different and beautiful from the others brides she have experienced.  Although the psych of girls are same despite the boundaries of everything. In western culture girls use to wear different white prom dresses but now they are skipping tradition to modern . Like other countries the situation is not seem different In Pakistan. Girls preferred on their great day. Because of its nature of color shows happiness, sparking and brightness. Now the situation is going different now thanks to media , magazines designers now girls have a vast choices about colors. But on the other hand , because of this the journey of simple red is not no more easy. When there is variety of things the choice of simple dress is gone complicated. And moreover this is wedding dress.

Bridal dress journey is different for different people. Some starts in different way or some only rely to their mothers, elder sisters or babhis for dress.  The story of bridal dress starts from your own brain and many don’t get the proper idea.  What to do or not to do. But before going in the complicated sad story and excited story of bridal shops. Here the questions rise in mind so what about the intelligent women who got the sketch of her perfect bridal dress. These women are highly motivated and want to buy her own design wedding dress. They are usually from the fashion studies or related studies. So they just go cloth market and buy appropriate fabric. And go to the master of bridal dresses and tell them how to design dress. But this story is not end here, master is just a master of bridal dresses he definitely left something that needs your help. But the story of these kind of bridal dresses and ladies are exhausted.

Lets talk about the usual and much expensive bridal dress that  is creation of common mind. So for searching perfect dress women starts roaming from one shop to another. She only reserve 5-10 days for reviewing the shops and dresses. And after 5-10 days they finally decided what type of dress they get from where. Then they go the privileged shop for perfect dress and take a order for dress and some of them cut the embroidery according to their wish. After the tailoring mistakes she finally get the antic piece.

But the story of bridal dress is not completed. But what about the rest who still like mine not satisfy with any of the shops (non- designers) . what they do ? they cancel their wedding or comprise for wearing a simple less worthy dress ? nooooo wayyyyy.  Then they go in the trauma of bridal dress but before going in to more severe depression or anxiety name of ‘’Designers dress’’ flash in their mind.  All depression and anxiety gone into happiness, they take phone and start msging or calling her friends about the numbers and addresses of designers. They finally they take a step in to the air-conditioned, more eve catching shop than non designers. The tailor oh I mean modern tailor so called known designers take a copy and pencil and ask her requirements. And make a sketch and then the dress atlast get the approval. Because dress making from the most desirable shop more over from the hands of designer so bride get the chance of try her dress before the final stitching. So the bride satisfy and wedding dress get the owner of wearing.

But what about the women who don’t afford dresses from expensive and designer wear or even don’t have much money for getting bridal magazines.  Are they remain unmarried or wear  daily wearing clothes with red duptta? They are poor but that doesn’t mean they have no dreams . so what these ladies do. They go to the cheaper shops and tell her requirements and make a perfect dress. But some of them they even had not much money to buy or order new dress even from cheaper shops. They usually buy second hand dresses of the brides who sale their dresses after their wedding. Some of them get the dresses from the rent house wear and pay money and return back.

So we meet all type of dresses that sales in market for different tastes and economical people. Human is  that type of creature sthat fully welcome every new stage of life either is school, college, university ,job or marriage etc. In every phase wants everything new but it depends on the environment where he/she lives. Some wear or use things of their elder siblings or sometimes even their elder cousins.  Interestingly, everything gone opposite when the time of marriage comes everyone wants to wear her own choice suit. Everyone get the dress according to their economical condition. Moreover elite class bride don’t comprise on anything and even buy highly luxurious dress that she wore only once. But we can’t restrict this only to elite bride every class bride wear dress only on that day for the dress is made. Everything counts good ethical after all it is her perfect day. In short, dress should be what you easily carry without the help of others, also in western weddings bridesmaid  carrying the dress of the bride. So please its modern world come out of this sort of extra cloths that only cause of more money for shopkeepers. Buy dress that you should carry out by yourself, also in which people seen you clearly.(not exhibiting of any cloth shop )

 Should be not too much expensive like millions (lakh) . Whatever the reason designers make dresses only for highly elite class not for common people. Make your own mind creation dopt via net ,magazines. But if u have more money simply go your desire shop or designer. In the last whatever the dress either expensive, middle range or second hand this shouldn’t be complete without you. Dress is just fabric is nothing worth unless you wear it. So your satisfaction and happiness towards your marriage is more important than dress. Also every smiley face makes dress perfect either it’s her wedding or causal dress.