I hate “first days” without any
reason. First days of schools, colleges ,university and I don’t even watch the first episode of any
drama . I used to skip 1st Day of everything. But sometimes you have to come
across this too. First day of my most recent ex-office was strange and wired
than others. I entered in office (sharp 9am that I was supposed to be) and then
I sat in to reception area. It was a big room having photocopy machine, TV,
four black sofa’s (one of them I was sitting) and decorated with some ethnic
pieces. I was anxiously waiting , in this feeling, I asked blue and black pant
wearing man (support staff) what should I do ? He replied just wait. Then after
15 mins, my wait got over and my boss said to me lets go and finally I got my
cabin full of messy things. Then I got orientation, read books, got
introduction with whole staff, little chit chat with people and that how 1st
day closed. My first lesson was not to come on time.
No one bothered whether other’s wore simple
frock and abya . Because according to them, everyone must be accountable to
their own actions. Every passing time the environment absorbing me and EM
adopting their norms. And within 1 month nothing is strange to me. My messy
desk changed into new desk and my front board is filled with sticky notes with
hotel Transylvania wallpaper on desktop. After 3 months everything going into continuity,
work and even my desk. Everyone became my friends
But when my arrival date came,(completion
of contract ), everything went in reverse motion. Everything was going away
from me. Now my full desk changed into empty. I wrapped the whole stuff and handled things to
supervisors. I had associated some fears with first day or I consciously wanted
to avoid introductory session of everything. I wanted to see things in flow
every one cheering, not to struggling for making relationship or other’s making
fun of their first appearance. Mostly in
office, everyone is teasing the new comers without recalling their own 1st
day. Putting barriers and discouraging and back biting. This used to happen
everywhere. I also became victim of this
like others.
Through my good listening skills
without interpreting them and won’t broadcasted it. I concluded people used to
backbite their seniors, when they mostly need their juniors as a guide. (It happened in offices when they hired new
seniors or some doesn’t like anyone to be superior than them etc) .Most
loveable moment is when backbiting is prohibited in offices and every single
person proudly disobeying the law. :D
It is psychological that we hardly welcome others
with full heart. This feeling called ragging in educational institutes. This
ragging changed into discouraging or in official language calls “leg pulling”.
In houses we used to call this phenomenon “grudges” towards latest edition of
family calls “daughter n law”. It is a vicious cycle hurters ain’t feel this
how much they unconformable others. No
matter how bad was happening with us in past we should try to adopt new changes
appearing in life. Life is about constant changes in structure otherwise I
would be monotonous.
In nutshell, 1st day fear come
along with all new comers of every stage. In more causal words we can say its
“revenge “. To take from those who never hurts you. Like suicide bombers taking
“revenge” of whom they don’t know. The points from above I’m trying to make
here is no body won’t replace you and you can’t replace anyone. Rather than to
jealous just embrace new change and forget new comer’s some mistakes. Be
optimistic J
