I wonder!!!!!

I wonder how I stand where I stand. I named it sacrificed. You call a bitter pill to swallow. There’s so much to say and creates many confusions. Rest, I let you guys to decide. Unfolding, revealing confessing bad impact of system. I end up, black n white all experiences, societal norms, gender roles.  Gender roles defined, by society, women are responsible of home chores, on other hand men are bread winner.

Islam present same picture. Since, women are weak physically, hence, Men should be responsible of earning. I REPAET HERE, WORD “Responsible”, means take as duty, and fulfil it by hook and crook. For women, it’s flexible law. It’s not her duty. Rather to create confusion, should go-ahead.

Systems are made to make you comfort. Girls are supposed to leave her own parents house, as to make her own family. Here is beginning, of new family system. She has to deal with new ventures, get experience. After having babies, and when her children get in university, she somehow, considered experienced women. But wait, story is not net yet finished.  

Hit and trails, fighting and many others makes this simple life, even more complicated. Life is more smooth, if society realized, helping, caring, sharing and responsibilities are go side-by-side. Women supposed to do all chores, despite having babies, despite doing jobs. Because that’s what are taught by elders to children, and what family are trying to build. I am not denying the fact chores are responsibility of women.

TV commercials teaching children, Sharing is caring, and “Jaga do ge to jaga bane gi”.  

Lessons are taught but not practice. Eventually, Unstable society are born. TV commercials are trying to give positive picture unlike dramas. How to become better person, If Son helps his mother in chores, if Son do laundry with mother, if wife do job with husband, husband wear iron scorch shirt with sweater in office.

Joint system is entirely opposite to what it supposed to be.  On other hands, it mainly caused of un-happy family. Where you are bond to do all house-hold chores, without knowing the fact, it’s not responsibility of women. Joint- family system is inherited from Indian culture. Where women have to perform all house duties.  Where husband has to give salary to his mom. Islam is not what we trying to confuse with joint family system. Islam is very humbled religion. Even no religion in world to taught, to hurt yourself, just to please everyone. It’s a society that, decided what to do, what not do. No religion gives the back of this system.

Many gets offend, after reading half of this. My point is not to prompt neutral system and to leave parents. Point is to realize, to embrace the facts, which shouldn’t be part of society. Before marriage, me and my husband, decided that we buy everything on our own, and don’t become a burden on our family. But we end up, mendhi less function, but got stuff for my room only as Jehaz. Later, I confess, I will for sure, gift my daughter, at least what serve her room best.

Islam is what has practice by Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). To make it clear how to run life smooth. To marry widow, to marry not a good looking girl and many more. What we read in Quran is practice by him. Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to help his wives in daily chores, wash own clothes.

 "The best among you are those who behave best toward their wives. I am the best among you toward his wives. The best among you is the one who is the kindest to his wife and the worst among you is the one who treats his wife badly."

Nutshell, bearing old parents after marriage is responsibility of man. Same hand, single daughter can take her parents after marriage too.  Should prompt things which are beneficial of healthy society.  Healthy society, to give rights to wife, as it’s her designated right by Islam. No religion force women, she has to obey everyone except her own wish. No religion prompts to live life with husband’s brothers, as we many confused with women doing job with male and field.  Society never said, men also do same. Job is duty. I am not saying, men left all his relationships. It’s an opinion, to give space, I am repeating a word, “Space”, prompt separate portions, on same house. It demolished, morally wrong-doing, and provoke healthy society. Healthy mind develops.

Note: Based on random thoughts. No offense. J