Why my bf`s mom always hates me?

I never met my bf`s mom but she always hates me. Why is it so? So many girls are suffering through this condition? But you ever thought why always a woman hates a woman ? What is the reason behind this ? Why you hate someone when you don`t know them. Mother in law hatred towards her daughter n law is a tradition or custom. But what you call this condition;meant by bf mother hatred towards his son`s gf. So many answer suits it. Like she hates son`s gf ,if he is student then gf is totally unbearable. But if he is not a student then gf have no more place in his son`s life. Gf is a viral disease if it would not cure at time, it must prevail and destroy whole body.
She says she trust his son but she have fear may be he chose wrong girl. One of my aunty hates gf relationship; once she told to my mom I know so many girls are around to my son . But I told him earlier, do whatever you want but you have to marry the girl that I chose. So she indirectly dragging him to wrong relationship. This type of rigid thinking is very common in Pakistani mother. If you nourish your son so why shouldn`t trust your son? Why always a girl bad why don`t you blame your son first? Your son who hurts your feelings and trust . Why you always blame gf. You even reject to meet or talk to his gf? Why? I think all bf`s mothers is afraid of girl friend’s phenomena . I think this suspected feeling of bf`s mom is fall in paranoid condition. All bf`s mom is suffering through paranoid condition (baseless or excessive suspicion of the motives of others). And she hates most, the message ringtone that rings on every 15mins on her beloved son`s cell. If the gf call bf cell, accidently if bf`s mom receive the phone, gf starts talking then she give her a award of cunning girl . If she immediately turns off the cell then she called her ill mannered. Also said I can`t understand now a day’s girls? They even don`t care their poor parents.
Why is it so? Also she don`t even hesitate to complaint gf`s parents about her innocent deed. What is her crime? She called to your son because he also talks her, he also loves her. Why always a girl blame for this. why don`t you understand sweet bf`s bitter mom I am not clever, I respect you because you are my lover`s mom. But why not you show generosity , I am not spoiling your kid. Very few sweet mom`s are also be there, who support their son and his gf too. But the former type of bf`s mom is seen everywhere.
In the nutshell, I only want to say girls stop roaming around boys. Because they never give you a respect that you deserve. Also not able to defend you from their mother`s anger. The psyche of boys is always remain same as before 20`s or in 2012. They left you , they blame you for every failure in relationship but never accept their mistakes. And please stop defending yourselves like starplus daughter n law for what deed you even not heard. Also for boys’ mother, boys are only one who first come following the girls like honey bees. Also trapping sweet girls in different ways. Your son got another girl that you chose but what about the poor girls, who love your son with full sincerity. Moreover, if her future husband knows about her ex- relation then he immediately kick her out from his life. So this all about the bf`s mother hatred result.

Now we get our basic necessities like a begging.

Pakistan and India cricket match is big and excited day. Our prime minister use to order, like a king of monarchy, on every match of Pakistan and India, there should be no load shedding. If Pakistan won then there will be holiday plus load shedding free day. What does it mean? This is simply means country running by king who is very cruel. But whenever there is any big event like Eid, Big match (match with opponent country) then they show mercy on the poor people. And on these big days our majesty become generous. Shows generosity through cutting off the half or less prisoner`s punishments, order to make load shedding free day, moreover with no strike of gas or petrol.
In this king`s empire , people is only have a freedom to say whatever they want. Like other king`s monarchy hoarding is also common. And you people witnessed this few times like sugar hoarding. This regime is true example of idle and greedy king. Who himself do nothing, except few events debates. Under king`s monarchy lots of ministers and one prime minister is working. If he want to order something he only convey it though prime minister . Our running government and minister is portraying the picture of king`s regime.
Like sluggish king`s who only care about their luxuries and rest. Idle master must have idle servants. king obviously have idle or lazy team. Who build marvelous building and palace, people recalled them from this, when they left. Current ministers’ assets is truly depict this picture. Coming back to the point that I am talking , prime minister statement. To provide food, clean water, shelter, employment, better health facilities ,old age security is basic facilities that the government is strict to provide masses. And the duty of masses is should obey all rules and duties that are made for running the country. One of the main duty is paying tax. S o if we are regularly paying our tax what does it mean? We will provide you electricity and gas ,petrol on specific days. Are we beggars’ or you are giving us loan? People elect you, to provide basic necessities of life to them .
Without going to massive detail of this what should government doing or not. I just want to say please , sir electricity is our need and we pay you for this. We are not begging you anything. So at least be respectable to your people. You are like a ``father `` to them , if they are in trouble they looking for your sweet voice . Nor your sympathies . Also we are not poor and miserable people. We are human and have respect like you. Please if you failed to give us basic necessities at least be polite and humble towards us.
In last I have only one person who care about their people as much , that when mid night starts he visited the areas . For observing anyone is needy. One day, he visited the Madina with his servant. He came across a house in which children weeping. His servant informed him that a woman was there with spponing the kettle having stones and water in it. She has no food for their children. He instantly went Baitul Mal took all necessities in a bag on his back. Servant said gives this bag to me. He replied ,you also take my burden of sins on the day of judgment. This is the story of true loyal leader ,Calipha Hazrat Umer Bin Kattab (RA). Because he knows he will be accountable on the day of judgment each and everything under this rule.
This is extreme humble and responsible attitude of ruler towards their people.

To hell with days;

Why should I celebrate international days? I should celebrate it because of the international gratitude’s. In my country everyone talks but no one bothers about the human rights. Either it is about the rights of the vulnerable masses (women, children). They celebrate international days; for aid and appreciation of western world. In my country where few know, Pakistan is signatory of the UN convention of Childs right. Many children are becoming victims of the societal injustice and violence. Same is the case with women. So why should I celebrate these days where there is no tolerance for women. Where still women are buried alive and murdered with brutality. Where many women are victim of Wani, kara kari etc. Moreover where women don`t even have the right to chose a husband. Also have no right of showing dissent for doing sex with her husband. Where even a female prime minister had not passed any bill for women`s right. Where in assembly women only talk about makeup and ban of `star plus`. Where on TV women is show piece. Either on ramp, dramas and print media. Even after passing the bill for women’s security still women are unsafe. If a woman disobeys the so-called norms of society then people call them rebellion. Where smoking and dating is considered unethical only for women. So why I should celebrate women ‘s day?

First time Pakistan Participated in APCERT Cyber Drill;

Pakistan is state which came into being 64 years ago after a long struggle. Since freedom to present era, Pakistani nation struggled for proving themselves a hardworking nation. And to some extent they are succeeding, to removing the stigma of terrorism and failed state. The recent example of this struggle is seen in Oscar awards ceremony by Sharmeen Obiad Chioney. Another good example is set by few people of Pakistan in the cyber drill activity that was held by Asia Pacific Computer Emergency Response Team (APCERT). Pakistan first time attended this cyber drill event that was held on 14th February 2012. Ume Ghazia, Rahat Masood, Talha Habib, and Hassan Ijaz, Shoaib Saleem were representing Pakistan and proved that Pakistan is not lacking back in field of technology. I recently interviewed Ume Ghazia; one of the participant. Here is her interview who tells us in detail what was the event and how they participated in it and what was the purpose of this activity.
Q; How are you?
Ume Ghazia ; I’m fine.
Q: kindly tell me first of all about your educational background?
Ume Ghazia: I have done matric from F.G sir syed school mall road in 2004.Fsc in pre engineering from post graduate college for women Kashmir road in short CB college(2006) and: bachelor’s in computer engineering from University of Engineering and Technology Taxila (UET) in 2010 .
Q: • Why did you select computer n communication security? What is the purpose of computer security and how it works?
Ume Ghazia: In last year of bachelors. I have studied one course of network security; it is just a brief course. I don’t know much about it; it seems interesting to me and different. So I decided to select this field for MS.
Q: well I understand what is meant by computer security but wt’s communication in this field ...
Ume Ghazia: After much interaction now I realize that in Pakistan there is a need of security awareness so that it comes along with other countries in technology. Computer security is a broad domain in which security measures are provided to computer system each n every process of it. To protect confidential data from unauthorized users.
Q: So you mean to say you spread awareness among masses about computer security? Along with computer security measures right?
Ume Ghazia: communication means providing security in network, if two parties are involved transferring important data through network there is also a need to secure that communication channel so that their communication cannot be interrupted: I’m telling YOU security awareness point in the context of country.
Q: Now I understand what computer and communication security is. Wt’s its purpose and work :) i must say u have a lot of knowledge......
Ume Ghazia: Pakistan is far behind in this domain people don’t know what can be done to steal their confidential information and now there is cyber war all over the world so people must have awareness to secure their resources and critical information.
Q: kindly Ghazia Tell us about the activity? And how many universities took part?
ume ghazia:. Cyber drill was an activity which was organized by Asia Pacific Computer Emergency Response Team (APCERT).Main purpose of it is to examine the capabilities of different country cert.
Q.How many other universities were in this activity?
Ume Ghazia; In this activity cert (computer emergency response team) of different countries participated not the universities. And this cyber drill activity 23 or 25 participants were participated. Pakistan had first time participated in this activity, in this 5members included, 4 participants and one observer. observer checks the communication with apcert web porta
Q. How many people were with you from Nust ? Where was the event being held?
Ume Ghazia; 3 from Nust. It is held in Nimis Company.It is security company.
Q. In Islamabad?
Ume Ghazia: yes. We represent Pakistan cert as PISA (pak information security association).
Q.You say there were 4 participant and one observer who observed that activity, so who was the observer ?
Ume Ghazia: observer was a member.
Q: member of which company
Ume ghazia: Actually he is PISA member and doing job and he is working as volunteer here. Observer was a visiting faculty in MAJU(Muahammad ali uni) and in Rifha. He is teaching management courses there.
I and two of my class fellows were from Nust. And one of my friend has a partnership in Nimis. And another participant was also from Nimis. All were not from universities. They were not students in short doing jobs.
Q: Pisa?
Ume Ghazia: PISA is the only non profit security organization in Pakistan (Programme for International Student Assessment)
Q: ok tell me what was criteria of attending this event?
Ume Ghazia: first of all it was to register the team in apcert website. Then there was a communication test .In which hosting cert demonstrates the communication rules and procedures.
Q: So you guys register your team via Nust......right?
Ume Ghazia: nops. one of the member register the team, communication test was not performed by all of us,two members attending it had communicate with us later
All information is on web page of cert.: http://www.apcert.org/application/index.html
Ume Ghazia: we have given a scenario in this drill and ten injects.Common thing was this they were all PISA members. (Programme for International Student Assessment). Injects mean they telling us with time to time this action has been done and also providing different information with time. Main thing is this how we immediately respond so that most of the information has not leaked.
Q: so Ghazia kindly tell me drill and 10 injects?
Ume Ghazia: we were given scenario of attack and then they were given time to time different info like files which we had to analyze for attack and want to know different sources through which attack occurs
Q: All participants were given same or different scenarios?
ume ghazia: no there were only one attack .I mean scenario was same.
Q: what was the prize dear? Who was your inspiration in life? Where do you see yourself after 8 to 10yrs? Like an I phone inventor Steve jobs? :)
Ume Ghazia: As such there was no prize and no position, but our team effort was highly appreciated. We are trying to spread awareness in Pakistan so that this association can become government body to properly cater all attack scenarios in Pakistan and prepare people for cyber war.
As far as inspiration is concerned I have set my own goals in life to be completed. And after 10 years I have to be security expert by gaining experiences to help people to handle such situations and have to be mature in this domain further IN SHAH ALLAH.
Q: That’s nice in the last any message you want give to young people?
Ume Ghazia: yeah, there is a talent in Pakistan youth no doubt so they must utilize their talent in a proper and positive way so that their country n people also can get benefit from them. Be hopeful n consistent then everything can be done; hard work must be the main element and serve for their country
Q; In last thanks for giving your precious time Ghazia . Best of luck in your future ahead.
Ume Ghazia: No problem .welcome dear :)